A father is very worried about his son, acts like a coward. So his father paid a visit to the master and (ask) him to train his son.

          The master said, “I promise I'll be able to train your child into real man in three months.”

          Three months later, his father came (pick) the child. The master arranged a match the child and his coach to show the three-­month training result.

          At Round One, the child was knocked down and fell to the ground. He stood up to meet the challenge. But he was knocked down again, and once again he stood up to fight... this (repeat) six times.

          The master asked his father, “Do you think your child's (perform) is that of a man？” The father said, “I feel ashamed for ！ I never expected that he would be so weak after three (month) training.” The master said, “I don't agree with you, and I regret you only see the surface of things. You have not seen the courage and perseverance in your son. This is the very spirit of a man！”

          Another of my patients, a successful businessman, tells me that before his cancer he would become depressed unless things went a certain way. Happiness was “having the cookie”. If you had the cookie,1 were good. If you didn't have the cookie, 2 wasn't worth a damn.

Unfortunately, the cookie 3changing. Some of the time it was money. At 4times, it was a new car. A year and a half after his 5 of cancer he sits shaking his head all the time.“When I 6 my son a cookie, he is happy. If I take the cookie away or it 7 ， he is unhappy. But he is two and a half and I am forty­three. It's 8 me this long to understand that the cookie will 9 make me happy for long. The minute you have the cookie it 10 to crumble or you start to 11 about it crumbling or about 12 trying to take it away from you. You may not even get a 13 to eat it because you are so busy just trying not to lose it. Having the cookie is not 14 life is about.”

My patient 15 and says cancer has changed him. For the first time he is happy. No matter whether his business is doing well or not, no matter whether he 16 or loses at golf.“Two years ago, 17 asked me, ‘Okay, what is 18 important？’ Well, life is important. Life. Life any way you can have it. Life with the cookie. Life without the cookie. Happiness does not have anything to19 with the cookie，” he 20 thoughtfully, “And I guess life is the cookie.”